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Matthew Heatley-Swaine
Cognitive Behavioural Therapist
You may have found yourself here if you have trouble with...
Anxiety about being liked, loved or accepted
Fearing being rejected by people
People pleasing or adapting yourself to suit others
Setting boundaries in your relationships
Lying away over analysing conversations at 2am
Telling people how you feel or expressing your needs
If so, welcome, I am so pleased you have found me. My name is Matthew and I am a Trauma focused psychotherapist and supervisor.
If your anxiety, loneliness and disconnection are holding you back from stronger and healthier relationships, I'd love to hear from you.
I have over 17 years experience in the mental health field. I work with people aged 16+ with range of emotional difficulties and can meet with you online or face to face. I am also a clinical supervisor to other CBT therapists.
About me
Therapy
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One to One Therapy
I help people manage their anxiety, guilt and shame due to difficult or traumatic events that have happened in past relationships.
In our first session together, we will understand what difficulties you are having and what you would like to change about them.
In the early stages, I find that it can really help to understand why we interact and behave in our relationships as we do considering past adversity. Together, we will find out what unhelpful patterns have followed you into adulthood and learning ways to reduce the problems they cause you now.
"When I first went to see Matt I was in a very bad place, I didn't know what was happening to me."
His help has been invaluable. I don't know what I would have done without his help. I would recommend him to anyone having difficulties. Thank you so much Matt.
A real review from a recent client of mine
My story...
People often assume I have it all together, especially being a therapist.
However, I have had to work hard on myself so it didn't all fall apart. It is said that a therapist can often end up in the line of work they do to try and ease the pain of others as they know what pain feels like themselves.
Growing up, I always felt like I didn't fit in, that there was something different about me. But, I learnt to avoid this feeling by adapting myself to whatever I thought the people around me wanted to see. To please them, desperately wanting to avoid conflict. Surely as long as I could do that, I'd be fine?
However, none of that really worked in real life and none of it made me feel any differently. I knew that to really connect with people, I had to be the real me and show my vulnerability to people, only then could I really be a part of a relationship.
Don't get me wrong, it's sometimes hard but this is the reason why I'm so passionate about helping others to stop being held back by what happened (or didn't happen) in the past.
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